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Why She Loses Interest

Understanding Her.

I'll come right out and say it:

it seemed like she lost interest out of nowhere. But I would bet that she was never that interested to begin with. You just didn't know how to read the signals. It hurts now that she has pulled back because you continued to invest your heart and your time when she probably wasn't all that invested in the first place. 

So what's the fix?


Even the 'best daters' get the signals wrong sometimes. But with a little bit of perspective and insight, you can become better at weeding out those who are not that interested to begin with so that you can invest more time in those ladies who value you and want your time and attention!

Read on my friend!

Why She Loses Interest...


1. She's Not enjoying herself

  • Boring texts

  • You're not connecting with her when you talk

  • Your dates do nothing to connect the two of you, maybe you're only talking about yourself

2. She Has Other Options

  • She's just putting her feelers out to start dating again but has a long term guy she's been seeing in the background

3. No Sexual Attraction

  • She might have lost the initial sexual attraction she had for you

  • It never developed in the first place and now you've become a friend in her eyes

4. She Doesn't Feel Understood By You

  • Not actually hearing what she is saying when she talks

  • Not doing the empathizing part of conversing with her, instead you're offering solutions, or fixes

  • She doesn't feel connected to you

  • You're only talking about yourself

  • Not asking about her world & life

5. Coming on Too Strong!

  • Being too eager too soon turns women off. Want to know why? Because if you're so eager before you've really gotten to know her she assumes you are like this will all women you date. No one wants that!

  • Constantly texting her. She's valuable which means she has a lot going on in her life, and a lot to do. "How's your day going" text messages are a waste of time!

  • Wanting to see her every single day. This indicates you don't have your own life, with your own valuable commitments.

6. She Legitimately Has Something Going on in Her Life

  • She is focused on work - in my personal opinion, this is an excuse. If someone is the right fit for us, 'work' is not going to get in the way. She may think this is the reason she's not seeing you again, but it's likely she's just not that into you. And that is OK! More time to spend with valuable ladies who ARE into you!

  • Initially she was invested and open to pursuing something with you, but something unexpected came up in her life. Who knows? Job stress, medical concern, sick relative? These things happen. Don't push her, if she is truly into you and something in life got in the way, she will find her way back to you when her time is right.

7. She Learned More About You

  • Ouch! Don't take this one to heart though. If she suddenly has pulled away, it could be she has learned more about you, your lifestyle, and your values and recognizes the two of you are just not a good compatibility match. Remember, this isn't the worst thing. Get back on that dating app and find someone who wants your time!

  • Women keep ‘score’ they keep track of the things they don’t like, and when these things reach a certain threshold, a certain amount she's out, she has decided its too many things and its not going to work.

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Does this sound familiar?

  • Spend tons of time crafting the perfect, thoughtful message, only for her to NEVER answer.

  • Wondering why she even gave you her number  in the first place?

  • Feeling like all of the cute girls don't give you the time of day?

  • Blank out when approaching women?

  • Waiting around for her to finally notice your value?

  • Playing it safe as a friend in hopes she will see you romantically "one day"

  • Spending hours thinking about what you should or shouldn't have said?

  • Always being there for her, but never getting the same in return?

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